Sure, we’ve taken our lumps, but black women certainly win the sweepstakes of oppression by a landslide. There is no question white gays have intrinsic advantages over black women in American society. Mannie can bark at the gay white universe to lay off, but an appealing means of expression and art are the ultimate in open-source culture. But “willingness” may be a strong word because it would have happened whether we were happy or angry about it. Our willingness to share our culture facilitated this detente.
#GAY SEX BLACK AND WHITE FULL#
Familiarity bred affinity, and affinity forced straight men to realize they had little to lose - and perhaps the admiration of straight women as a fringe benefit - by supporting full equality for gay people. Once those lines were blurred, once straight men not only accepted gay men but sought out our advice - remember “Queer Eye For the Straight Guy”? - men of all sexual orientations could see their similarities far outweighed their differences. By the early 1990s, straight, urban men even accepted a hybrid moniker: the metrosexual.
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We were house-proud, fashion-forward, smart and funny, versed in both high and low culture. Straight women liked our clothes, our hair and our manscaping, and straight men will do just about anything to appeal to straight women. Even those who deigned to be friendly did so at an arm’s length, claiming to be discomfited by irrepressible images of us - with them? - in sexual positions. At first, those old enough may recall, straight men refused even to speak to us, lest others perceive them as less than fully virile, if not gay themselves. Not long ago, the biggest barrier for social acceptance for gays was heterosexual men. Gay white men, in fact, pioneered a prototype for this. White gay men - once intensely vilified but now able to harness our white male privilege for good, having learned what being on the outside is like - are a conduit through which black women can work against both countervailing forces that push them down. No alliance is perfect, but this one has the potential, if nurtured properly, to reconfigure the stories of race and gender. Yet here’s what else Mannie overlooks in her full-frontal assault: White gay men as a group could be the truest friends black women can have in American society. Her fire is fueled by some undeniably racist interactions, a supposed epidemic of white gay men who actually wish to be called by stereotypically black names and anoint themselves “strong black women.” It’s difficult to dispute that such behavior is weird and offensive, but it’s illogical to suggest all gay white men are “thieves” on that anecdotal basis alone.
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Others have already burned the piece down to its homo-ignorant nub, noting that Mannie writes cluelessly and obscenely about the nature and challenges of being gay. She zinged, “You are not a black woman, and you do not get to claim either blackness or womanhood. Last week, that alliance came under attack by misguided University of Mississippi senior Sierra Mannie, who believed she was defending black women from cultural theft by launching an assault on white gays who, to her mind, behave too black.